Does your soon-to-be-ex-spouse know what “buttons to push” to cause you to react in a way that is inflammatory or nasty? If you know that your spouse has this ability, then you must realize that he or she is likely “pushing your buttons” in an attempt to control you. Sometimes, these tendencies increase when you are involved in litigation. Particularly devious exes who want to portray you in an unfavorable light in court will take every opportunity to do so. So, Don't Take The Bait.
How-you ask? Read what you write before e-mailing or texting your spouse. Take a moment to send the message to a friend, if necessary, to make sure that it comes across as plain and non-confrontational as possible. Remember, your text messages or e-mails may end up before the court. If they do, you want to be the one who appears to have the coolest head in the game.
Use your texts to help preemptively Turn Your Fear Into Power When Happily Ever After Fades Away.