FEAR OF HORROR STORIES:
Listening to other people's divorce horror stories is certainly enough to incite fear with respect to going through your own divorce process. One important thing to remember is that every divorce is different. Just because your “Cousin Vinny” went through a horrible divorce process does not secure such a process for you. Remember that everyone's facts and circumstances, family, assets, and income are different. Resist the urge to compare your case to that of another person who even is the same age, race, or income bracket as you. Familiarize yourself with the ins and outs of your particular case and listen keenly to the advice your attorney gives you about how your case should proceed. If need be, ask the attorney how your situation may be the same or different than the one occupying your mind. Letting go of comparison is one of the ways we turn fear into power when happily ever after fades away.